How to Make Your Own Decisions

nounNorth American

-the practice of thinking or making decisions as a group in a way that discourages creativity or individual responsibility.

I would like to bring light to this pattern of thinking that can be destructive. Groupthink can be present in smaller scenarios like families and friends. It could be happening if we ignore what we really want just to “go along with the flow.” It’s also been called being sheep, or sheeple (sheep and people combined), or the herd mentality.

The bible says to be holy. In Hebrew, holy means to be set apart, different.

How can we be set apart if we are constantly making our decisions and running our lives based on what the crowd is doing?

We weren’t made to all be the same. We were created with different ways of learning, talents, and things we enjoy. We look different. It’s good to be different!

Embrace the differences about yourself!

Learn what sets you apart, so you can BE set apart.

On a personal scale, examples of destructive groupthink could be majoring in something your parents want you to instead of what you want, or continuing to attend the church your family of origin did when you are an adult, even if you know it’s not right for you, just to squash any possibility of conflict with them.

And on more of a macrocosm scale, it’s what accounts for financial market crashes, when everyone sells stocks simply because everyone else is selling.

This is not the same as making a willing sacrifice for the good of a group you belong to. In a family, everyone will have to do some things they don’t want to- like get up early to get your kids fed and off to school, or attend an event with your spouse that you’re less than excited about. It is a good thing to make a decision on purpose and to be aware that you will endure the pain for the good of the other.

It’s not good if it becomes destructive and steals away a lot of your energy. You need that energy to be the best version of you that you can be.

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